A few days ago, I got a message from my Facebook Page from an expectant mommy asking for an advice as she’s a first-time mom. I gave her my #1 advice which is “rest as much as you can” (and a few more). I couldn’t stop thinking of her so I thought “how can I help her further?” Then I realized it would be nice to ask more moms for an advice also, so I wrote this on my page:
It’s incredible to know that moms will always be moms willing help their fellow moms. I got a bunch of heartwarming responses so, in this post, I’m writing the top 5 advice to first-time moms moms.
1. Treasure every moment
Time flies really fast nowadays. In fact, 2 days from now, my then “baby Nate” will turn 4 years old already. Where did time go? Seriously?
This is among the many reasons why we treasure every moment that we have with them. #1 minsan lang silang bata, #2 darating at darating ang time na hindi na sa’tin lang umiikot ang mundo nila. As they grow older, they will meet new friends, will be exposed to more activities that will interest them, and later on, will leave our home to become an independent person.
Konting panahon lang ang meron tayo na sa’tin lang talaga umiikot ang buhay nila. 🙁
2. Don’t be too hard on yourself
Even if we want to, we don’t have the superpowers to be awake 24/7 and even though we’re good at multitasking, may mga bagay parin tayong gustong gawin na hindi natin nagagawa.
Sadly, the world has created this sort of “standards” for moms that if you don’t do it, you’re an irresponsible mom or whatnot. This is causing more harm than good to moms. Because of these standards, some moms are being judged for their parenting styles, which shouldn’t be in the first place.
It’s ok to be disappointed sometimes, as long as we don’t dwell on the feeling for too long. Don’t be stressed too much if there are things you want to do but can’t. ‘Wag mong iisiping hindi ka mabuting ina dahil may pagkukulang ka. Parenting is a journey, we learn as we go along the way so each mistake is a stepping stone towards becoming a better mom.
3. Know that it will all be worth it
I couldn’t agree more on the moms that commented to prepare for the worst because it (labor) will surely be very painful but when you see your baby for the first time – oh! Tears of joy overflowing! ♥
At hindi lang sa panganganak ‘to applicable – maging sa pag-aalaga. Ang ilang taong puyat will be all worth-it pagdating ng panahon. Kaya go lang tayo ng go! 🙂 As my friend, Janice wrote it, “Remember that you will be raising the next generation, future husbands/wives, fathers/mothers to someone else in the future or future public servants and leaders, raise them well.”
4. Be strong and courageous (Joshua 1:9)
Problems will eventually come, frustrations will drain the energy out of you, and you will surely miss the times that you were single and sleeping for long hours. Just stay strong and grounded, it will not stay like this forever. So habang medyo nakakangarag pa talaga, stay put lang muna and most of all, enjoy the journey. Keep the courage and believe in yourself.
5. Do not be afraid to seek help
Do not turn down the people who are willing to lend a hand. If you think you need a quick nap, ask for help from those who offered aid. If you’re unsure about what you’re doing, you can always ask – your doctor, your mother, or anyone whom you think can help you. No mom is an island. 😉
Top 5 Advice to First-time Moms
To top it all off, prayers surely help! Ask God’s guidance and wisdom as you nurture His precious gift.
Here’s a bonus from Mommy Juvy of Mama Speaks: “ALWAYS BRING WIPES”. Haha! True enough! ♥