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Top 5 Advice to First-time Moms


A few days ago, I got a message from my Facebook Page from an expectant mommy asking for an advice as she’s a first-time mom. I gave her my #1 advice which is “rest as much as you can” (and a few more). I couldn’t stop thinking of her so I thought “how can I help her further?” Then I realized it would be nice to ask more moms for an advice also, so I wrote this on my page:

It’s incredible to know that moms will always be moms willing help their fellow moms. I got a bunch of heartwarming responses so, in this post, I’m writing the top 5 advice to first-time moms moms.

1. Treasure every moment

Time flies really fast nowadays. In fact, 2 days from now, my then “baby Nate” will turn 4 years old already. Where did time go? Seriously?

This is among the many reasons why we treasure every moment that we have with them. #1 minsan lang silang bata, #2 darating at darating ang time na hindi na sa’tin lang umiikot ang mundo nila. As they grow older, they will meet new friends, will be exposed to more activities that will interest them, and later on, will leave our home to become an independent person.

Konting panahon lang ang meron tayo na sa’tin lang talaga umiikot ang buhay nila. 🙁

2. Don’t be too hard on yourself

Even if we want to, we don’t have the superpowers to be awake 24/7 and even though we’re good at multitasking, may mga bagay parin tayong gustong gawin na hindi natin nagagawa.

Sadly, the world has created this sort of “standards” for moms that if you don’t do it, you’re an irresponsible mom or whatnot. This is causing more harm than good to moms. Because of these standards, some moms are being judged for their parenting styles, which shouldn’t be in the first place.

It’s ok to be disappointed sometimes, as long as we don’t dwell on the feeling for too long. Don’t be stressed too much if there are things you want to do but can’t. ‘Wag mong iisiping hindi ka mabuting ina dahil may pagkukulang ka. Parenting is a journey, we learn as we go along the way so each mistake is a stepping stone towards becoming a better mom.


3. Know that it will all be worth it

I couldn’t agree more on the moms that commented to prepare for the worst because it (labor) will surely be very painful but when you see your baby for the first time – oh! Tears of joy overflowing! ♥

At hindi lang sa panganganak ‘to applicable – maging sa pag-aalaga. Ang ilang taong puyat will be all worth-it pagdating ng panahon. Kaya go lang tayo ng go! 🙂 As my friend, Janice wrote it, “Remember that you will be raising the next generation, future husbands/wives, fathers/mothers to someone else in the future or future public servants and leaders, raise them well.”

4. Be strong and courageous (Joshua 1:9)

Problems will eventually come, frustrations will drain the energy out of you, and you will surely miss the times that you were single and sleeping for long hours. Just stay strong and grounded, it will not stay like this forever. So habang medyo nakakangarag pa talaga, stay put lang muna and most of all, enjoy the journey. Keep the courage and believe in yourself.

5. Do not be afraid to seek help

Do not turn down the people who are willing to lend a hand. If you think you need a quick nap, ask for help from those who offered aid. If you’re unsure about what you’re doing, you can always ask – your doctor, your mother, or anyone whom you think can help you. No mom is an island. 😉

Top 5 Advice to First-time Moms

To top it all off, prayers surely help! Ask God’s guidance and wisdom as you nurture His precious gift.

Here’s a bonus from Mommy Juvy of Mama Speaks: “ALWAYS BRING WIPES”. Haha! True enough! ♥

“Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.”
(Proverbs 31:28,31)
What’s your #1 advice to first-time moms? 🙂

15 Replies to “Top 5 Advice to First-time Moms”

  1. Motherhood is something I was not really prepared for when I first became a mom. I am so blessed I have my mom with when I gave birth to my first born. She made everything easier for me.

  2. Motherhood, as I live it, is a gift not everyone can appreciate until she learns to truly live it. Once she's there, slowly, she will learn and know what's wise from wiser. But it is always a welcome treat to have friends giving you advice. Yes on the wipes 🙂

  3. I agree with all your top 5 advice especially sa #2. When you become a mom or dad, you will realize that it is not easy to become a parent, nandun yung fear. There are times natatanung ko sarili ko if I'm raising my son well. It is not enough na naiprovide mo needs and wants nila, ang importante kung magiging good citizen ba siya paglaki. hehehe!

  4. I definitely agree with all these especially #1. As a mom of 4, with my first 2 already in high school, I can say na time really flies way to fast. Imagine mo yun may mga dalaga na ko. Kaya with my younger 2 kids din nagdecide na ko mag work-at-home na lang coz I wanna be more hands-on and spend a lot of time with them.

  5. Motherhood is a challenge and a ministry. It's a challenge because we wil discover new things and learning from our responsibility. It's a ministry because because we will serve first our family as we serve the Lord. So my advice for the new moms read your bible, pray, ask God for wisdom and embrace every moment.

  6. Choose rest above all else…ahhaha over household chores I mean. haha When I was starting, I felt everything had to be in order and that I was being a bad mom if I didn't do things the right way. I stopped caring about what other people would think. I would always remind myself that there is nothing to prove to them anyway kase magawa mo man the best, there will always be a negative comment waiting hahaha Love all the tips

  7. Yes to everything on your list Nilyn! As the saying goes, the days are long but the years are short. I still can't believe I already have a 6-year old…a first grader! Another thing – you'll never find yourself saying "I wish I bought this for them…" Material possessions do not count that much!

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