WAHM & Marriage

My Fears as a Wife

I’ve been a wife for almost five years now. We’re turning five this coming December. To be married to Dane is one of the greatest blessings I have received from God. He is the perfect man for me and I love him every day.

It’s not a secret that many married couples end up being separated, annulled or in other countries, divorced. It is rampant nowadays. I know it’s none of my business, however, for someone who believed in the sanctity of marriage, I feel sad when I hear married couples break up. In fact, my friend was not an exception. She had an affair and later left her husband. I cried many times over that. I feel sorry for her husband who’s also my friend for years.

I can’t help but think about my own marriage because of this reality. Yes, I am a Christian but that doesn’t mean I am exempted to the temptations.

We all started as couples madly in love who vowed to spend the rest of our lives for better or for worse. Later, our love for each other grew and we had a family. But how did the spark slowly go away? How did the love slowly fade? We don’t want our marriage to end that way but many have experienced that and more are on the brink of deciding to call it quits.

Among my greatest fears is for that to happen to me and Dane. Sometimes, I worry that one of us might fall into Satan’s trap. I worry that our marriage will not work and we end up arguing all day and night. I worry that I might be unfaithful while he’s away.

I don’t let these worries eat me because I believe I have a God who will help me stay faithful to my spouse. However, I let these little worries stay in me because I think they help me stay on guard. With these worries in mind, I will always be reminded to be alert and always remain loyal to my partner, no matter what.  I can’t do it on my own, I need God to help me stay true to the love of my life.

“Adultery starts in the head long before it occurs in the bed.
Guard your eyes. Guard your mind. Guard your heart.”

I read that post from Gracie of Tipid Mommy yesterday and I shared it on my wall. It is a great reminder for me as a wife to an OFW to ALWAYS… ALWAYS be on guard. Ikanga, hindi pwedeng maging kampante, dapat palaging nakaalerto. Some mistakes that people regret for the rest of their lives can happen in a snap. I do not know what happens tomorrow but I am praying and hoping that God will always take care of our relationship and that we stay strong and on guard always. After all, he is the one, and no one else whom I want to grow old with.

0 Replies to “My Fears as a Wife”

  1. You have valid reasons to worry about your own marriage but don't let it consume you. Many of our fears never happen in reality. Just put God at the center of your relationship para merong forever 🙂

  2. First of congrats for reaching 5 years of marriage life. You are very blessed indeed. I also agree that it's normal to get worried sometimes especially if you are far away from your loved ones. But I think you are on the right track you trust God so much and that is very important in a relationship.


  3. That's a really nice quote and it is something that all couples must try to follow. I was married in my early twenties but my husband and I eventually separated. It wasn't because of adultery but of many other reasons. Of course ideally you wish things like that won't happen to your marriage. You really have to do all that you can to save the marriage. In my case though, I realized it was something that had to happen in order for me to live the kind of life I really deserve – the life I have now with the dad of my sons. 🙂 Now, I know and I'm sure I'm with the man I'm supposed to be with for the rest of my life.

  4. Aw! Thanks for sharing your stories, sis. We really have our own reasons for leaving or holding on. I am more sad when the reason's infidelity, just like my friend's. I'm happy you found your forever. ♥♥♥

  5. That's the hard fact to your statement that we're not exempted to temptations. But the greatest challenge for every couple to keep with is their marital vow to love one another and not to lpve another one.

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