OK, before you judge me… no, it wasn’t me who said that (title), it was the very famous Kim Kardashian. 🙂 And this has divided many people online, some sided with her, and some don’t. I just feel like I need to say something about this too. This is what she said on her website:
“I’m gonna keep it real: For me, pregnancy is the worst experience of my life! LOL, I don’t enjoy one moment of it and I don’t understand people who enjoy it. My mom [Kris Jenner] and Kourtney [Kardashian] clearly did! More power to them, but I just don’t relate! (Kim Kardashian West)
Many people call her ungrateful for saying this and many agree with her too. Her comment took me back to the time I was pregnant with Nate. And the challenges that I experienced while he was inside me for 40 weeks.
|Me before going to the hospital for delivery.|
1. Not morning Sickness. Nope, it’s definitely not morning sickness, but evening sickness! Since I work at night, I’d sometimes feel the need to just go to the bathroom and throw up. Sometimes, I feel like I have gastritis and just feel so sick sometimes. And nope, sometimes it’s not evening sickness either, it happens at any time of the day, just any time my tummy feels like releasing something!
2. Swollen Feet. Oh I sure have those when I was on my third trimester! Good thing if I lay my feet up, it would somehow subside but yes, I didn’t like it. Some of my sandals won’t fit anymore!!
3. Stretch Marks. Oh yeah! And it’s a living trophy for me because I still have a lot of those right now! haha! Nope, the VCO didn’t work, LOL. When I look at it, I still feel sad, I miss my soft & smooth tummy before I got pregnant but it’s a price that I get. When I look at it, I’d always remember Nate.
4. Can’t lie down properly. Haha, I’m sure many are with me on this too. Back pains, leg pains, it seems like you have all the pain in the world! If you lie down with your back, minsan ang hirap huminga! If you lie sideways, nakakangalay katagalan. Plus you need lots and lots of pillows!
5. Catching my breath. When your tummy is really huge already and all the pressure goes to your feet, even walking 10 steps can be veeeery challenging!!!
Not to mention the frequent urination, us getting fatter and fatter everyday, increase in weight, and some foods you couldn’t enjoy eating (like the raw foods, inihaw, kinilaw! ugh!), and on top of that, the ring of fire we experience during labor and delivery!
So yes, I didn’t have an amazing pregnancy either! I don’t think I even have the pregnancy glow while I was pregnant! haha! How can I be when I couldn’t sleep well! lol! So what’s the point of me writing this? haha. I just have to say I to contradict to this:
No, not at all! I can say that pregnancy was very challenging but NO, it cannot be the worst experience of my life. Here’s a few reasons why I think it’s not (or cannot or shouldn’t be):
1. Remember the VIP treatment? Well, Kim K is Kim K so maybe she could not tell the difference because she always gets a VIP treatment. But, yes, you get to be on priority lane, most people (not all anymore nowadays) would offer their seats for you, and a lot more! Here in the PH, we always give priority to pregnant women (in counters, groceries, almost everywhere, and I experienced it first-hand, how you get those VIP treatments. And I’m sure you agree with me that it was awesome! haha!
2. Remember the first times? The first positive pregnancy test result, the first ultrasound, the first kick, your partner’s first kiss on your tummy, and there’s a whole lot more! That’s more than enough for me to grateful for.
3. The joys. There are so many unspeakable joys during pregnancy. I’m sure it’s not just me. We’d feel so amazed thinking that there’s a creature living inside us. We are giving life, and that they are literally from us. How cool is that? When I was pregnant, I watched this video about the journey of life from conception to birth and to see your unborn baby develop over time is just beyond wonderful! Got me teary eyed!
There’s still so many things to mention when we think about the good side of pregnancy. But if we focus on the negative side – which I think were also there so we’d value life and love of babies even more, we’d really not be able to appreciate the positive sides of pregnancy.
Some people say that Kim’s being very ungrateful with her statement (they could be overreacting but I can understand why some say so). Few years back, Kim was with fertility doctors, wanting to eagerly get pregnant (and she had North), the next thing we know, she was saying pregnancy is her worst experience.
While she was doing this, many couples are doing their very best just to be able to get pregnant. And may feel a bit insulted about this. Some wasted thousands of dollars for fertility treatments and many will trade all the negative experience you’ll have just to get pregnant. And many are still struggling with infertility, no matter how rich they are.
“While we’re complaining about something that we have, many are wishing they have it”.
No, I just can’t say pregnancy is the worst experience in my life (sorry, Kim, have to disagree with you!). I can say it’s very tough but it’s certainly not the worst. It’s bittersweet!
In fairness to Kim, she said at the end though:
“But I will say, as much as I really hate the whole feeling of being pregnant, I enjoy the challenge of getting my body back after it’s all over. I feel so accomplished when I’m back to where I want to be. Really, it is all SO worth it when you have your precious baby in the end! So for all my complaining, it’s 100 percent worth it and more!!!”
But still I don’t agree with her first statements (Sorry again, Kim. LOL!). I don’t think of pregnancy as my worst experience, I think of it as my greatest achievement. I am proud to be able to get through all the challenges of pregnancy and harvest the fruit of it when I saw Nate for the very first time. And I will be happy to experience all of it again at the right time, when Dane and I are ready for an addition to the family.
What can you say about Kim’s comment? I’d like to hear from you. 🙂