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How to Handle Negative Thoughts

How to Handle Negative Thoughts

As a new mom, everything about motherhood is a plain trial and error for me. It wasn’t very easy at all, and all I can say is that it requires tough work. Nevertheless, I also have to admit that motherhood is the most amazing, most rewarding job in the world!

However, the saying is true: “You don’t understand your parents’ sacrifices until you experience it yourself”. Every time I feel so tired of taking care of Nate, I remember what my mother felt when I was still young. So I make sure I thank her for all her sacrifices when I get a chance to talk to her over the phone.

Few months after I gave birth, I would remember there were times that I’d just stare at the wall or the ceiling, or the corners of the room thinking about so many things – mostly about me not being very prepared about this “parenting” thing. I’d sometimes wish I was more prepared financially, physically and emotionally for this. Don’t get me wrong, motherhood is such a wonderful thing but there are really times everything just strikes me – the new role, the new environment, the new responsibility I have at hand. I think I am over thinking about things. Here are some of the things I do to get over my negative thoughts, I hope it helps you too.

1. Handle Negative Thoughts: Refocus

When I feel these things, what I do is try not to focus on it. I try to think of the good things and the positive things that happened to me, sometimes, we can’t see how wonderful is the view ahead of us because there was a little barrier hindering our vision. That barrier is just very small but because it is nearer our eyes, it becomes bigger.

2. Handle Negative Thoughts: Amuse yourself

I’d sometimes just go online to amuse myself or watch funny clips on YouTube. Sometimes, I’d also dig my old files (old photos, old journals, old notes, everything old)! They make me remember some old happy memories.

3. Handle Negative Thoughts: Talk or chat

Sometimes, find someone I can chat online. I don’t usually open up to those I’m able to chat, just to have a conversation and catching up with the events of my life already makes me feel relieved. Sometimes, I’d also open up to Dane, he’s such a good man and understands me when I am on my “crazy” mood. I call it crazy because I literally look crazy sometimes just staring everywhere. He makes me feel good, makes me realize I have so many blessings to be thankful for instead of focusing on the negative part.

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4. Handle Negative Thoughts: Remember your inspiration

Also, sometimes, I’d just look at Nate and I already feel good. Right now, he’s our motivation, our reason for working hard, our inspiration to have a better life and the little guy we hope we can leave a legacy. There’s a lot of parents I can who really work so hard to give their family a better living and a better future.

5. Handle Negative Thoughts: PRAY

This should be my first on the list. God is just there, waiting for me to turn to him. Most of the time, I take my own heavy yoke when He said if I cast my burdens on Him, He will give me rest. That should’ve been an easy work to do but I fail to cast all my cares on God that’s why I feel so burdened at times.

This new chapter of being a mom has turned my world upside down but I know I can do it. I just have to stay focused on my reasons for working hard each day! If you are a mom or a new mom like me, I’m sure you can relate to this. I hope you also find your own reasons to stay focused on your goals. ๐Ÿ™‚

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